How to Use a Vibrator Like a Pro!
Some guidelines on How to use your Vibrator!
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Ever find yourself wondering why there’s so much fuss about sex toys? Perhaps you’ve seen some of the buzzing sex-tech on offer and have no idea where to start. Or maybe you already have a toy – but aren’t sure you’re using it right.
Then this post is for you! Can you imagine a world with no shame around practical sex education? At Intimate Touch, we believe that pleasure empowers women – and we want to arm you with information to take your pleasure to the next level!
Today we’re going to show you how to use a vibrator like a pro! Keep reading for some simple tips to help you to take pleasure into your own hands!
Step 1: Shopping for a toy
Next, think about the way you already like to experience pleasure. These questions will help you to enhance what you already enjoy.
- What parts of your body do you like to be stimulated?
- Do you prefer external, clitoral stimulation? External vibrators are great for other erogenous zones too.
- Or is internal stimulation (gspot, aspot etc) your favourite? Internal vibrators are designed to be used vaginally or anally – but can often be used externally as well.
- Are you keen to feel dual stimulation of both internal and external?
- Do you prefer a gentle or a firm touch?
- Is slow pleasure your preference? Or do you want to get there faster
There are no wrong answers here. These questions are designed to help you think about your preferences, to inform your decision-making as you consider your options.
While browsing through vibrator options, take note of the differences in design and material.
Are you attracted to a toy that is curved for G-spot stimulation? Perhaps ridged for extra titillation? Bulbous? Firm? Soft? These will all impact the sensation you feel – follow your instinct here!
Different materials also impact the sensation and should also be guided by your choice of lubrication.
Silicone is a popular choice – it’s body-safe, non-porous, feels nice and silky smooth to the touch, and is easy to clean. But, be careful of using silicone lubrication with a silicone toy – as this can degrade the quality. Opt for water-based lube instead. Side note on lube: If you’d like to use a condom on your vibrator, stay away from oil-based lubes as that can degrade the latex.
Next, read online reviews to see real-life reactions to the toys you’re considering. This can be a great way to get an insider scoop on the kind of sensations provided and any potential issues to consider.
Once you’ve taken some time to consider these options, you can go ahead and choose a toy that appeals to you. And don’t let worries about shipping scare you off. Vibrators don’t come in a big red flashing box that says “SEX TOY INSIDE!” Everything will be discreet, so nobody needs to ever know!
Before you buy a sex toy, take some time to consider your intention for the purpose. What do you hope to gain from this toy?
- Are you simply hoping to have a good time?
- Do you hope to learn more about your body?
- Is the main goal to experience more orgasms?
- Are you looking for a brand new sensation?
Step 2: Getting to know your toy
The day your toy arrives can be very exciting! But before you rip open the packaging and get down to business… take a breather! Follow these tips to make sure you have the most fun with your new buzzy friend!
- Read the instructions for use, and other important safety and maintenance information. This will also help you to understand the controls if your vibrator comes with different settings.
- Check the power. Does the toy have batteries or need to be charged? Do that next.
- Explore all of the settings and intensities in advance. I recommend that you try the vibrator on your hand or arm first so that you are prepared for the sensation and any sound that your toy makes.
- Wash your vibrator – even if you are using it externally only. Use a gentle soap and rinse thoroughly.
- When you’re ready to play, gather all of the supplies you need – lube, towel, locked door… and then you can begin.
Step 3: Getting ready for playtime
Now you have your vibrator, and you have taken some time to get to know it. The next step is to have some fun. Whether playtime is alone or with a partner, the following suggestions will help you to experience the most pleasure!
- Set the mood – Choose a time when you can relax and give yourself space to explore pleasure without having to rush.
- Get comfy – Create an environment that is conducive to pleasure. Maybe you’d like to bathe, put on some music, relax and lean back on some soft cushions.
- Don’t skip foreplay! Take your time, even if this is a solo session.
- Give attention to your whole body, massaging erogenous zones and slowly moving towards your more intimate areas.
- Start with your normal self-pleasure technique and allow arousal and pleasure to grow.
- Use lube to heighten the sensation of your touch. This is a great tip, whether you intend to use a vibrator internally or externally.
Step 4: Using your vibrator
By now, you should be relaxed and aroused. This is the perfect time to introduce a vibrator – the biggest pro-tip is to take your time, especially when using one for the first time.
Everyone’s vulva is different – and a vibrator can feel incredibly intense at first. So, be sure to start on the lowest setting and explore around your vulva. See how it feels on your inner thighs and pubic mound. The more you can tune into the sensations, the more you will learn about your pleasure anatomy here.
Don’t forget to include other erogenous zones such as your neck and nipples with the vibrator too.
When you feel ready, move the vibrator onto your vulva and use it to massage your outer labia. Glide it up and down, adding more lube if necessary. Notice where the sensation feels more intense and gradually move towards your clitoral glans. If your clitoral glans is hidden by a hood, try the vibrator on top of the hood. If that feels too intense, move the vibrator slightly upwards towards the shaft of the clitoris, or on either side – which may feel nicer. You can also try placing a piece of material between the vibrator and your clitoris to diffuse and dull the intensity. Many women masturbate with their underwear on for this reason.
If the vibration feels good on your clitoral glans, try experimenting with the different settings and patterns of vibration. Slowly work your way up and try to find the goldie-locks point where it feels just right.
Once you have the right level of vibration that feels best for you in this moment, try varying your stroking techniques.
- Hold the vibrator still in one position
- Experiment with the pressure – it can sometimes feel exquisite when you don’t press the vibrator onto your clitoris, but instead, allow it to sit gently in place
- Pulse the vibrator in place
- Orbit your clitoral glans by drawing little circles around it with the vibrator
- Or stroke from side to side, up and down or diagonal.
Stay tuned in to your body and notice what feels best for you – then stick with that. It might not take long to reach a peak of pleasure!
If you want to include penetration in your play, then slowly ease into it once you are fully aroused and feel a real craving for it. Use plenty of lube and insert your fingers first – preparing your body for the vibrator.
Once the vibrator is inside, continue to stimulate your clitoris with your other hand to keep the level of arousal high. If possible, explore how it feels to change the position of the vibrator inside of you.
- Vary the angle, depth and pressure that you’re using.
- Switch up your body positions. Try using the vibrator with you lying on your back, on your stomach with some thrusting actions, even standing up!
If you are using the vibrator during partnered play, explore positions that allow you to stimulate your vulva externally during intercourse. Girl-on-top can be great for this!
There is no wrong way – just trust your body and follow the breadcrumbs of what is feeling good!
Step 5: Aftercare
Once play has finished, give yourself a moment to integrate the experience. If you experienced orgasm, you might have noticed a huge spike in sensitivity causing you to quickly move the vibrator away – that’s totally normal.
If you didn’t experience orgasm, perhaps you’re feeling frustrated. Try to be patient with your body and don’t discount the pleasure that you experienced.
When you are ready, clean your vibrator and store it properly, somewhere that it won’t gather dust. This is important, even if you’re the only one using it.
Conclusion
So, now you have a toolbox of ideas that you can try to help you use a vibrator like a pro! We hope it helped you to see that it’s not such a mystery after all.
The bottom line is that there’s no wrong way to use a vibrator. With these suggestions and a little bit of practice, you’ll be swinging from the chandeliers in no time!!
Author : Lisa Welsh
About our guest writer: Lisa is a Pleasure Pixie and Sex Educator who loves helping people to unlock their full orgasmic nature.
You can find out more about Lisa at: https://inbedwithlisa.com/
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